Rector’s eNews 08: 4 March 2026

In assembly on Monday, I addressed the boys on a subject that shapes much of their daily lives – social media. With us becoming stricter in terms of boys having access to their devices as well as blocking the boys’ access to social media on our network, we are playing our part in trying to control how much time boys spend on social media platforms.

In previous generations, a poor decision made on the sports field or in the boarding house remained largely contained. Today, a lapse in judgement can be shared instantly and seen widely. As boys of this school, they carry our badge with them wherever they go and that includes the digital space.

Social media is not, in itself, the problem. It can be a powerful tool for connection, creativity and leadership. It can also be deeply damaging. The difference lies not in the platform, but in the character of the person using it. Ultimately, this is less a conversation about technology and more a conversation about integrity.

I reminded the boys that their online presence is an extension of who they are and who they are becoming. The values of integrity, humility, compassion, courage, respect and accountability apply just as much behind a screen as they do in the classroom, on the field or in the boarding house. Nothing posted online is ever truly private, and their digital footprint will, in time, speak on their behalf to universities, employers and others long before they enter the room.

The boys were encouraged to use social media to build rather than break: to celebrate others’ achievements, to contribute thoughtfully, and to engage in ways that reflect dignity and self-respect. A simple discipline like pausing before posting and asking, “Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?” can prevent significant harm.

We also spoke candidly about the risks: hiding behind anonymity, participating in toxic group chats, sharing inappropriate or degrading material, or measuring self-worth by likes and followers. Such behaviour not only undermines others, but ultimately diminishes one’s own character. Real courage is shown in taking responsibility for one’s words, standing against what is wrong, and valuing authentic, face-to-face connection over online approval.

Being a young man of this school means being a man of integrity in every sphere of life. My message to the boys was simple: represent yourselves well, and in doing so, represent the school well. Character does not change when one logs onto Instagram or TikTok. In the digital world, as in all others, they are responsible for what they put into the world.

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